My "Two Tables" approach on gauging people

I read an article about intuition/gut feel a week ago, I just can't find the effin link. Anyway, it said that if you think you have poor "gut feel" skills (that's moi!), then here's a trick: think of a scenario or moment in your life when you felt so joyful and light and everything felt "just right". When a person or thing makes you feel this way, he/she/it/they are good for you. On the other hand, if you feel the opposite, then they're not for you. Humnnn...quite tough! But what I did, I went back to the two family dinners I had over the Holidays.

SIA DINNER
The first one was with my biological mother's side. The atmosphere was heavy and talking was a task. I didn't even laugh, not once. Two hours felt like ten. The food didn't even taste good.

Conversations went:
"Inday! Day! Day! ( a derogatory term if you're not that close).Unsa ka na call center?"
" Convergys"
" So wala kang pasok ngayon? Magkasama ba kayo ni Wena?"
" Oo. Magkasama kami..."
"..."

Me: "...di kasi nakapasa si Justin."
Niece: "Shhh..okay lang yan. Di naman lahat pareho." (in a goody-girl that makes me feel bad about myself way)
Me: "Of course."
Silence

Ahia Allan: Picture naman!
(Picture taking)
Ahia Allan: (looks at the picture) Ayan, parang super enjoy tayo ah!
I do hope he was being sarcastic.

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SANCHEZ DINNER

It was my first time to meet my Sanchez-Ruiz clan. We met at Superbowl Greenbelt (coincidentally,same Chinese resto where we met the Sias). Well, it was fun even before we started eating. Everyone was funny and they're all pleasant and interesting and interested. My cousin asked everyone what they want to order. No one ruled the conversation. No one was "the successful one" and more important, no one called anyone "inday". It was just two hours and I wanted to stay longer, get to know them better.


Now, when I meet a person or when I try to assess the people in my life, I would imagine two tables (Sanchez and Sia) and I would ask myself where he's likely seated. Just that simple. Without thinking hard. It's amazing because there are some long-time friends who I now place in the Sia table and there are new-found acquaintances that are on the Sanchez table.

Of course, I may be wrong. The 2-tables thing could simply be a gauge on who I find pleasant and unpleasant... and we all know pleasantness is not the sole gauge of good intentions/trustworthiness (no, it effin isn't!) but that requires another kind of "gut-feely" question, which is:
Is there something odd/off about this person? Is he too bubbly? Do you imagine him/her rolling her eyes behind your back? Never go near those creatures!

I don't know how to end this. It's dinnertime..Sooo.